We have the cards we are dealt, however many times we respond negatively toward them. In meekness we hide our disabilities and parade our strengths. But this ailment is not for the mere purpose of having a burden in our life, our ailments are vessels that “the works of God might be displayed” (vs.3) – The more we have the mightier he will look. The more you have the more potential you have to overcome.
“What if I had <_______>” won’t help with anything if it’s a reflection on the past, or an opportunity that will never be. What happened happened. And this might not always be the most tactful thing to say, but it did happen for a reason, and does not detract from the sovereignty of God.
I don’t think I can unpack this any more in the public arena, it’s more of a personal conversation topic, and without proper explanation, empathy, context and relationship, these kind of statements tend to offend.