I heard another great idea from Steven Furtick (or maybe it was Clayton King) on the podcast a few days ago, and it was about the concept of forgiveness.
Basically, he says to forgive means to pay a price. So when we are forgiven by God, it’s really that God paid the price that we should have, so we can be right again.
In our lives, if we forgive someone, there is a price we have to pay.
Say you were hit in the face by a shoe, by one of your best friends. On purpose. During a fight.
You can make up, and re-establish your friendship, but every time you see a pair of shoes, it would become so easy to be reminded of the injury you sustained in your fight.
The fact that it was their fault, and they did it on purpose.
The fact that YOU were hurt, but their callous action.
And the price you have to pay, in order to forgive them, is to move on. To brush aside those thoughts every time you see a pair of shoes. And to not make a big deal out of it.
I used a pretty silly analogy, but it does emphasise the fact that forgiveness is a continuum.